Need advice on talking to girls

[Makee]

Don't bother talking to them, women in general don't like man who talks too much.
Just ask her a question and let her do the job, women adores listeners.

Only thing you should always tell them is how beautiful they are, that's a sure win!

It is completely normal to be confused when proselytize to a girl, particularly if you like her, more you like her - more confused you will be, and this is just because of yours excitement.

Don't worry and relax yourself, less you thinking in advance - easier the job will be.


Good luck!

[Engineer]

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[NYgurkha]

I usually talk about how i pilot an Internet Space Ship and how big it is.

/better than talking about Internet warlocks and wizards.
//caldari straight frontin

[CodeRedFox]

Your asking this group?....brave brave man...err boy

[Tartantyco]

-What are these..... "Women" you mention?

[Makee]

Originally Posted by Tartantyco

-What are these..... "Women" you mention?

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[bloodthirsty_viking]

Originally Posted by Makee

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i fixed it for you... its just bad becuase i fixed it at 5:17 am

[[R-DEV]OkitaMakoto]

Basically take the advice from this thread and do the exact opposite

Umm
a short list from the master[me]

1. Don't rush if you're looking relatively long term[not just a hook up/one nighter]
2. Conversation, find common points
3. Be yourself
4. Don't be clingy
5. Adapt to her, be yourself, but be aware that things you try might or might not work as expected.
6. Avoid the ominous "friend zone", few make it out of this alive, though I'll tell you its currently from someone from this zone that I'm getting my action, meaning it IS possible.
7. Don't be lame. I only bring up gaming/addiction to the internet and such when the time is just right. Then it means that you're confident[very important] and that you're honest[equally so]. Means you trust them to be accepting AND gets laughs sometimes. I bring up FPS and PR regularly now to sort of give off a cocky nerd attitude. The chick I'm with digs it and thinks its a riot. Talking squad level tactics in bed is actually a little known aphrodisiac.
8. Sun Tzu
9. Be amazing in bed

Read them, Follow those, and it's safe to say you'll land a girl who is worth something. Might take time, but if you're looking for something meaningful, time is something you've gotta be ready to spend[read: wait]

[Desertfox]

Originally Posted by NYgurkha

I usually talk about how i pilot an Internet Space Ship and how big it is.

/better than talking about Internet warlocks and wizards.
//caldari straight frontin

You caldari may have the rokh, but we, the amarrian empire have the geddon.
AMARR VICTOR!

[M.Warren]

Girls? Annoying things really. I generally find them to be self-absorbed in almost every undenyable fashion. As they've said, women generally do most of the talking. Consider it like one of those machines outside of a grocery store. You put your 25 cents in and you'll be on a ride for the next 5 minutes. At some point they may eventually ask you about what you do. That is if you don't have your ears bleeding.

A good thing to do is to know alot of things, the more the better. Generally the best way to connect with a women is to have similar interests. A good way to do that is to be active. Do skiing, biking, jogging, snowboarding, surfing, reading, listening to music, watching movies, watching TV, and comedy. Watch soap operas like Scrubs for example. Things that are both unique and common.

The more you do, the more you know, the more you have to talk about. The more she will be interested in you. Women want to see a guy who is superior above the rest but isn't a dick about it.

Because women will generally be attracted to a person that is better than themselves. The trick is... Don't flaunt it. That becomes arrogant. The idea is to have a well rounded intellect and experience things in life with a profound sense of right and wrong as well. A developed opinion is also a very big plus. Essentially, know the things you need to know, but don't act like you do. Best word to describe this is being humble.

Just as much as you need to be humble, you also need to know when to be confident. If you look at a girl or she looks at you repeatedly, approach her when you have something in mind to speak to her about. Don't keep looking away, because that becomes awkward. Look back at her and give her a simple smile or something if you are intrested aswell.

When you go to speak to her say something simple, something witty, be perceptive, compliment her about her attire, be funny. Once again, being funny and friendly is a big plus, but also be confident without being obnoxious or overbearing in the process. The idea is to coax them into a friendly conversation that can expand to any horizon or any great lengths.

A key word you need to know is Disposition. A persons disposition is basically how famous or well known you are. Generally by your skills and abilities as a person.

A person who has a high disposition is a geek, a person who feels insecure and unconfident with himself or herself. Having a high disposition usually is not what attracts attention.

A person with a low disposition is basically a rock-star, someone who is confident in thier looks and is social. Having a low disposition usually attracts alot of attention.

If I have any advice what to give you that is worth while... There is a movie you need to see named:

"What Love Is"

The whole movie is amazing. It's almost the complete personification of how sex, love, romance and relationships come together. Not just from a single male perspective, but also from female perspectives too and how they come together.

Each person in this movie represents a certain perspective or mindset. From the bold and straightforward type, to the shy and avoiding type. Each has it's own characteristics. But you as an individual have to find someone that matches your character. Including the evaluation of how tolerant you will be with that kind of person.

All people can mix and match in different ways. To say one definitive way of doing things is untrue. You have to understand how to approach each that is unique to yourself.

But one thing is certain, in a large majority of situations, people who are bold and straightforward and know how to play the game generally will achieve more of thier goals. Even if they are... Brief and wild.

That's the nature of the game.

With that said, I want to introduce to you a small clip from that movie... Also a key point as something referred to as the "11th Man Theory". Pay attention and listen intently, as a majority of situations this proves to be true.

The whole movie is filled with dialogue and several perceptions of relationships. Truely a wonderful eye opener to those that are unfamiliar. A wonderful way to start, and also a wonderful way to help you understand yourself.

Movie Title: "What Love Is" - The 11th Man Theory.

YouTube Video

That is all I have to say for now. To go on and enter more in-depth perceptions would simply beat specific details to death. These details are not easily understandable until you spend more time trying to comprehend womens minds behind it.

Positive highlights that a woman notices:

Being social, slim, kind, intelligent, funny, healthy, hygienic, groomed, shaven, fun, loving, romantic, a gentlemen, courteous.

Negative highlights that a woman notices:

Being arrogant, unkind, uncleanly, unhygienic, a miser, an idiot, a dick, obese, lazy, clumsy, negative, abusive, aggressive.

Once again... Not all women are attracted or dislike the above mentioned. But this is a common groundwork and everything has to be done in the right measure. You can be polite to a girl, but repeatedly apologizing or saying sorry will annoy her aswell. Like I said... In the right measure.

I hope this has helped define some of the confusion that the learning curve might have... Remember, watch that movie as it will make relevance to you in time if you choose to become more social with women. So the question is:

Are you the simple man who is satisfied with the one woman he's married to and loves so dearly?

Or

Are you the complex man of varying personalities who has an insatiable craving for lust and a desire for any woman he comes in contact with, in less than a 12 hour period?

The sooner you know who and where you are, the sooner you can learn as to what kind of women to associate yourself with. In the end, the virtues you hold dear should to some extent be reflected into the person you share that with. To try and join someone with conflicting ideals is never... Easy.